To change ourselves first we have to know ourself. We have to be able to CONTEMPLATE AND REFLECT upon on our own behaviour honestly and see the effect it has on ourself and those around us. We have to analyze our own emotions, and question them. Question why we do things, and how others act toward us. Once we are able to identify things as they truely are we become aware that we act differently to different people, and that we sometimes have negative thoughts and emotions. All our actions are first born from our thoughts. But when we are with people are we acting out a particular role?, or are we being honest with our self and them?. Reflect upon how they make you feel, how words effect your feelings, and watch how others try to control you and the people around them, or how people are controlled by the people around them. Question your own motives, are you often mean/cruel to others? Do you enjoy watching poeple in pain? or Do you enjoy helping people? Do you care what others think? Do you act differently around different people? Do you enjoy talking about emotions and feelings? Are you afraid of meeting new people? How do you deal with anger? Do you take our your frustrations out on others or do you allow them to build up? The knowing and unknowing you must become aware of your own control drama and others, and why, and how to change the way you deal with people, but these control dramas are not easy to break and they take time and work, you can not just turn them off, a daily routine helps where you write down what happened and how you dealt with the situation, and if you did what you think was right, or do you think you could have done something different, it can be very difficult to decide right and wrong, You will also become aware of others control drama and when they are competeing for your energy, but you will be able to avoid this situation, maybe even stop it or reverse it, if we also know our parents control drama this will greatly help to understand our own, and understand our parents a lot more, a lot is not their fault as a lot of the control dramas power is done subconsciencly , you will also be overcome with relief as a huge burden is lifted, letting go, and forgiveness will fill your heart, no one is perfect and we all make mistakes, most people try to do their best but they are overcome with their own control dramas and it steps in and we lose sight of what should be done. When more people get through this stage this is when a critical mass will emerge as others behaviours change, which inturn will change other peoples attitudes. Before this point there is only knowing yet there is little experience or understanding, but as the experiences increase, awareness increases you will be better equipped to relate to others.
6. Childhood traumas block our ability to fully experience the mystical. All humans, because of their upbringing, tend toward one of four control dramas:
o Intimidators steal energy from others by threat.
o Interrogators steal it by judging and questioning.
o Aloof people attract attention (and energy) to themselves by playing coy.
o Poor me's make us feel guilty and responsible for them.
Become aware of the family dynamics that created your control drama and you can focus on your essential question, which is how to make of your life a higher- level synthesis of your parents' lives.
Getting clear. In order to be in a state of love with the world on a regular basis, we have to let go of patterns of behavior we developed to take energy from others.
First, we have to become aware of our "control dramas" and break our controlling habits. There are four control patterns or ways of causing others to give us energy, two actively demanding energy, two passively creating conditions in which energy is sent. "Active" control dramas include intimidation and interrogation - asking questions and then picking apart the answers. "Passive" control dramas include aloofness - creating an air of mystery that entices others to send energy--and "poor me"--creating a sense that if others don't provide energy, something awful will happen to the controller.
Second, we have to "get clear" of our control dramas. We must understand our parents' control dramas and how these shaped ours. Then we must learn what meaning our parents' lives had for us, and how this determines our own developmental work. The things we would change about our parents - individually and together - are what we need to work on in our own lives.
LOVE IS ALL WE NEED, CONCENTRATION AND ENERGY ALL WE HAVE.............MAY ALL BEINGS BE HAPPY, MAY ALL BEINGS BE HEALED AND HEALTHY, MAY ALL BEINGS BE FREE FROM HARM AND SUFFERING, MAY ALL BEINGS BE AWAKENED AND LIBERATED, MAY ALL BEINGS ENJOY INNER PEACE AND EASE, MAY THERE BE PEACE IN THIS WORLD AND THROUGHOUT THE ENTIRE UNIVERSE.............MAN IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL, ONLY THROUGH THE MIND CAN EVIL SURVIVE.............
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For someone who doesn't know how too look into themselves how would you suggest they do this?...and could you explain how parents control dramas create our own please
1. If someone doesnt know how to look into themselves they can choose one of two paths
Eastern- Meditation
Western - Psychology
The eastern method relies a lot upon honesty, critical analysis, silence, patience, awareness, and curiosity.
The western method relies upon another person acting as a medium to allow the person to speak about their past and present situations, but it is a very delicate process where the Person must lead the person on, but not feed.
2. Our parents control dramas create our drama by creating the ying, or the yang so to speak. The child will automatically and subconsciencly become aware how the parent is draining the child of energy, there by attempting to counter the parents control drama, and either neautralize or gain energy. A control drama can not work if the other half doesnt join in the game. But as a parent we can stop these dramas or minimize their effects.
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